There is so much conflicting inside me right now about children. I am at the point in life where I want children, and tragically with what I am going through I'm not sure I can have children. Then there is adoption. Adoption is expensive and a very arduous process, but something we can do if we can't have children.
I guess I'm not sure if I want children for selfish reasons of simply passing on a part of myself to another generation or if I want children for the joy of helping another life grow up in this world. Maybe I'm analyzing too much? Maybe life just happens one day and you need to deal with it? Though with my current life that is pretty doubtful! I can't seem to reassure myself that it is ok to live a life without children. I feel that I'll be letting my parents and family down by being childless. I also keep fretting or the fact I may be missing out on one of the greatest joys of life.
Whatever the answer is, I am coming of the age now that I need to do something about these feelings.
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Oh honey, you would be a wonderful mommy- in fact I can't think of anyone who would have more love, understanding, and kindness to contribute to a child. And the most obvious sign of that is that you are concerned for the well being of a child in your current situation.
There is no easy answer about what you should do, you have to look at your life, your marriage, and your situation and determine whether these factors- not simply the perfect, wonderful woman who is you- are ideal for raising a child.
But, again, YOU would be a wonderful mother, sweetheart. With all the love and and patience, and inherent goodness that the word "mother" implies.
You *would* be a good mother, Colleen. The only thing I have to add to what Monica said is that if you *do* have kids, don't think about pleasing your parents or any of that...you can't think about anything but what you and your partner want. In this situation, as with many other important ones, you two are the only ones that matter. ^^
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